Making Sleep Work: Tips for Waking Babies, Multiple Children and Harmonsing Routines
Welcome Thrivers to another insightful post on thriving parenting! In this post, we delve into two essential topics: when to wake a sleeping baby and how to adapt sleep routines in homes with more than one child. These discussions promise valuable insights whether you're curious about the benefits of waking your little one or seeking ways to balance sleep schedules for multiple children. Let's dive right in.
The Age-Old Advice: "Never Wake a Sleeping Baby"
We've all heard the saying, "Never wake a sleeping baby." It sounds logical, right? However, there are circumstances where waking a sleeping baby might be beneficial, especially in terms of consolidating their sleep and optimising nighttime rest.
The Case for Waking Newborns
Newborns often experience a mix-up between day and night because their womb environment was consistent in terms of light and activity. By waking your newborn at specific times, you can help establish a clear distinction between day and night, encouraging longer sleep stretches at night.
Newborns need frequent feedings since their stomachs are small. Allowing them to sleep for extended periods during the day may result in missed feedings. Waking them approximately after three hours can ensure they get the necessary calories during the day, which may naturally extend their nighttime sleep.
Adapting Sleep in Older Babies and Toddlers
As your baby grows, too much sleep during the day can lead to fragmented sleep at night. For instance, if your 12-month-old naps for four hours in the daytime, it might disrupt their nighttime sleep. It's crucial to monitor your child's total sleep over 24 hours and adjust daytime naps accordingly.
If your child is waking up for long periods at night or having trouble settling at bedtime, it might be due to an imbalance in their sleep schedule. Adjusting daytime sleep can increase sleep pressure and improve nighttime rest.
Children's sleep needs evolve as they grow. Transitioning from multiple naps to fewer (or no) naps can benefit from a gradual approach. For example:
Three to Two Naps: If your baby takes three naps but struggles to fall asleep at night, consider shortening one of the naps gradually.
Two to One Nap: Often seen around 15-18 months, this transition may require shortening the morning nap to encourage a longer afternoon nap.
When it's time to wake your baby or toddler, doing so gently can help:
Let natural light into the room.
Gradually turn off any white noise.
Speak softly or sing a gentle song.
Use light touch, such as a stroke on the hair, to help rouse them gently.
Waking your child at the same time each day helps regulate their biological clock, improve sleep patterns, and reduce feelings of jet lag. Aim to keep wake-up times within a 30-minute window daily for best results.
Thriving as a Parent
Adjusting your child's sleep routines isn't just about them—it's about you too. Ensuring your children nap at the same time can give you vital breaks during the day to recharge and be present as a parent. It's about balancing your needs alongside your child's for a harmonious home environment.
My sister-in-law faced a situation where her 11 and a half-month-old would take long morning naps, affecting their afternoon routine and resulting in late-night bedtimes. By shortening the morning nap, the child began to nap simultaneously with her older sibling, providing much-needed downtime during the day and improving nighttime sleep.
Balancing the sleep needs of multiple children and opting to wake a sleeping baby at times is a nuanced practice. It helps create a structured, restful environment for everyone involved. Remember, adjusting sleep routines is an evolving process that benefits not only your child but you as a parent as well.
Let's end with a quote from Vimala McClure:
"Mother is the reflective principle, the balancing agent for the child. Like a guru, she allows the child to make mistakes and loves the child without condition. Like nature, she allows consequences to unfold and balance to be restored when it is lost."
Parents, your work is incredibly meaningful. Embrace the balance and thrive on.
Until next time, Thrivers!